Hi Ashley, I think you ARE in the right place. I am 34 and have four kids (7, 5, 3, 1). The five year old is diagnosed celiac and that is what led us on this road to good health, a blessing in disguise for sure. I am working on getting them all grain free too. My three year old son stutters and I definately feel there is a dietary connection, although his ped and a speech pathologist have said no. I myself have been grain free for about six months now (after having been traditional gluten free for a year before that). My husband and kids are traditionally gluten free, but 90% grain free also. We have also eliminated sugar 99% (Halloween and suckers from Great Grandpa). My son had gone about 3-4 months without much stuttering at all, then right after Halloween he started again. He didn't have much candy at all, but I think maybe all it takes is that little extra to shock his system, I am looking into possibly having him tested for candida as he also has major sugar cravings.
Elanaspantry has been wonderfull for me, good healthy replacements for “normal” treats, the agave tastes great and has a low glycemic index so would be wonderful for your Type I diabetes. My husband is reluctant to give up some of the processed gluten free convenience items such as pre-made bread (Udi's) and Tinkyada pastas, and a few other “gluten free” junk foods, but I think he will come around eventually so I am trying not to force it too much. In six months we have cut back tremendously from what we used to do. It's a lot to take in at first, but it's a process. For us it has been a complete lifestyle change, but homecooked healthy meals is the way to go. We used to eat out 3-4 times a week, mainly for convenience, so unhealthy, but we were socially engrained to think this was OK, even RIGHT. At first you do feel bad telling the kids “no” when you pass by McD's or Pizza Hut, but they get so used to it and then they stop asking. Your kids are young enough they will adapt very easily. Just keep giving them a variety of fruits and veggies. We shop for fresh produce 2-3 times a week. We have explained so many times the health reasons for our choices, I think they are actually getting it. I'm hoping by the time they are old enough to make their own decisions they will make the right ones. It takes a lot of organization and pre-planning, especially if you have to travel at all. Sometimes I feel like I spend all my free time either shopping, cooking, or cleaning up but it's worth it for their health.
I have watched all Dr. O's videos and I have to say they have helped me tremendously. The hardest part is socially, which is covered in the video. We do homeschool also, so I think that makes it much easier. My thoughts are teach them while they're young because the older they get the more difficult it's going to be.
BTW, we got all the kids genetically tested that way we KNOW (less likely to give in to temptations). That way too we have a piece of paper to show them if they ever ask or doubt why they should be doing this. Also I have sometimes found it helps when explaining to others when they ask why we or the kids can't eat whatever at a potluck or a party. Once you say genetic test=gluten intolerance they just say “Oh” and leave you alone about it.
I had a really hard time finding a doctor to help me, but finally found one that is considered a “functional medicine” specialist, not sure if that would help you but it's worth a google. I hope you find your path to health here, keep us posted.